When I cross a one-way street, I look both ways. I never know what’s coming at me from the wrong direction. It is always difficult to know what’s coming at us from any direction. The not-knowing is scary when that’s all we think about. For some, that is all they think about. It’s called anxiety. How many otherwise sane persons have been prescribed anti-anxiety drugs? How many otherwise sane persons fear to stop taking them?
You’re reading this and thinking about what you fear. Most of us have reasonable fears that keep us from making mistakes even when we’re not actively feeling afraid. When we say, “I’m afraid,” most often it nothing to do with fear; it’s just an expression.
“I’m afraid the dog ate the rest of the stew” a mother informs her son. “How about a peanut butter sandwich, okay? And when you’re finished eating that, I’m afraid you’ll have to clean up the dog’s vomit since you’re one who didn’t cover the stew when I told you to.” Had the boy been afraid of forgetting . . . you get the point.
Instead of listing useful fears - you can do that for yourself - let me suggest how to escape irrational fear and anxiety. It’s an old solution: It costs nothing but time, and it’s worth every penny and most minutes.
It’s called Meditation.
I freely admit I’m new to this-sort-of-thing. Don’t sweat it and don’t be afraid. Five minutes is better than nothing. We don’t need to aspire to religious office of any sort. We need no special equipment, although lying in bed may lead to a nap - which is fine - but not quite the idea, here.
There are many sites listed on the internet. Here is one: Meditation
FEAR NOT! One does not have to practice yoga or any flavor of Buddhism to meditate. Many religious and non-religious have practiced meditation throughout the ages - and lived without fear - of anything (with reasonable exceptions).
How does this work? That’s for you to decide. I can say, “It’s your brain” and wait while you ask, “But how, but why? Really? It’s one’s brain?”
Choose a comfortable position, but not one which will lead to sleep, although that’s not a bad thing. Some of us see colors on our eyelids - beautiful, marvelous colors in various shapes - almost kaleidoscopic. As well, one may be given other sights and insights - other ideas - as if they’ve arrived from a source other than ourselves. One receives information, confirmation, delights our conscious minds might never have considered. The thing is, it’s exciting, offers succor and great comfort, the peace that passeth all understanding.
Most fears are useless, a waste of time. If you long to believe something, believe that meditation will offer a world of heretofore unimaginable beauty.
How often does one need to meditate and for how long? Remember: Five minutes is better than no minutes. If you’re comfortable with a routine, set one up for yourself, but don’t try to run when you haven’t learned to walk. Take it easy. It’s not a contest. Look to the internet and your local library. Decide what works for you.